Something for Parents

First of all let me say this, 80% of bad behaviour done by some people because of how their parents treat them. This is fuckingly true.

You parents doesn't do your job fair enough that we children were raised in such environment. That in turn effecting our personality. And when something bad happen, you put the blame on us. Why? Why bother put the blame on your own children when you can think about your own fault. It's starts front the beginning.

First phase: Pre-marriage

It starts from the moment you two married. Tell me, why did you married in the first place? Love? Family's order? You have enough money? You think life after marriage will be good for both of you?

BULL SHIT!!

Love does nothing but pain alone. It is your own choice to follow your family's order. Money is nothing but a tool for people to interact with each other. Life after marriage is not supposed to be good for you. It's supposed to be good for your offsprings.

Let me tell you this, when you married, you have to sacrifice nearly everything to make sure your descendant gets a better life afterward. This isn't about you. This is about them!

Who will be born and have to carve their own story? Them! Us (the children of the future)! Marriage is where you are preparing to baton touch with your child so that it's them who build the future.

You will be demoted to side character if this life is like a movie. You children are going to be the main star from now on.

Does that mean you are no longer important? HELL NO!

Did you know that without the interaction with side characters, the main heroes and main villains are nothing but a robot?

But, because of this impression made by those stupid lovebird that the children suffer from it.

How is that possible? What marriage impression effecting them?

A lot.

Second phase: Life after marriage

You see, when you marrying because of you and not because of the world's future, you unknownly developed a sense where your actions will be based on you and you alone. Because of that you will act selfishly.

As a parent, you are supposed to act selfless. This is about your child we are talking about. They learned everything from you. How did you interact toward others, how did you react toward some changes in life. And those observation they made will create a personality based on those.

If you have been shouting at them before, they will shout at you back one day. If you have been nice to them, they will be nice to you. If you have been spoiling them, they will be spoiled at the rest of their life.

Why the last one is different?

When you mad at them, you've installed a software called 'Anger.exe' into their brain. They will be angered in the rest of their life. If you spoil them, the software is 'IGetWhateverIWant.exe' into them and they will act as if this world is theirs.

Third phase: Dealing with more than one child.

This phase is important for parents whose having more than one child or going to have another one.

You have to, I said it again, HAVE TO, balanced all love you have toward them AND release ALL your loves toward yourself.

Remember to interact with all of them in equal numbers everyday, regardless what age they are. If you spend twice with your first child, be sure to spend time twice with others.

This is important so that they won't have a thinking of 'Myparentsdoesnotcareaboutme.png'

Children, regardless their ages, always have this kind of picture ready to be edit anytime.

You parent doesn't realise, that if you spend more time onto specific child, the others will feel as if you ignore their existance. This also effecting their habits.

Don't you know that problematic teenagers are mostly the results of you being biased to them? They feel neglected and they started to mingle around with someone they aren't supposed, thinking that their parents doesn't even care about you.

And yet you blame on them for their bad behaviour?

Without salt, curry won't be as tasteful as it supposed to. Without you, they aren't as humane as they supposed to.

Fourth phase: Creating a story

You wanted them to succeed. You wanted them to have a better life with a stable job. You want them to study hard so that they could achieve that. You unconsciously make them do whatever YOU want.

What if they failed?

You: You got an F in math!? You embarrass your own family! You embarrass me! Did you know how embarrassing I am telling my friends how bad you are??

I got a question here, who's the one who failed? And why did you tell them about something that make you shame?

We are the one who failed. Did you ever consider our feelings? Did you even asked why did we failed? Why must we bother about your feelings when we are the one who is in trouble here?

You: I want you study in business so that you can have a better life afterward. I want to see you happy in the future. I won't accept other non business-related subject.

Okay, who's life are we talking about? You or me? Why did you have to care about what occupation we would like to have? Why did you have to become the author of our book when the book is produced with OUR NAME on it?

You parents just think about yourself! Have you ever wonder what we thought about ourselves? NO! COZ' YOU'RE SELFISH!

It's us who carved the stone! It's us who stained the clothes! It's us who write a full paragraph on the papers! Why on earth did you have to become a dictator on our own life!?

Seriously, parents? Think about it.